Running to, not away

Posted by on Jun 8, 2012 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

It was to be her second official 10K race and as she took her mark at 
the starting line of the 6.2 mile journey I hugged her, gave her a 
high five and quickly rushed up the racecourse to briefly catch a few 
photos as she would soon be running by. Gathered around her several
 friends, a few acquaintances and a massive amount of strangers all in
 pursuit of the same goal… to finish.

At 7 AM sharp the race began and she passed me with a wave of confidence as she was absorbed 
into the massive human wave of excitement. I quickly rushed to my car
 so I could get to the finish line, run backwards on the course and 
hopefully meet her halfway. It took only 10 minutes for me to park the
 car and hit the street running, knowing that inevitably we would be 
reunited and I could help pace her to the finish.

Running up the racecourse, opposite the runners, I felt like a salmon
 swimming upstream. Although I was not in the middle of the racers,
 having to look at each individual face to be sure that I did not
 pass my runner was the daunting task. It was difficult to say the 
least. During the second mile my focus had to be more attentive so as to 
not miss her.

It got me to thinking how many times in recovery have we 
been running away from a relationship, away from a struggle, away from 
the pain of the past or even away from responsibility? I also pondered
 how different our experiences were going to be when we met, her still 
trying to complete her goal of finishing the 10k and me pacing her 
without pushing her too hard.

There are many times in early sobriety 
that the relationships we are in also are in need of recovery. 
Inevitably one individual will move faster or more efficient than the
 other. Each person’s recovery speed is different, each goal for
 recovery different and therefore great harm can come if one member
 in the relationship attempts to rush the other through.

As this was to 
be her experience I knew that simple motivational pushes would be more
 appropriate than to aggressively force her to pick up her speed.
 Alas after submitting a significant hill our eyes connected and I quickly 
joined her in the race. I was proud that she had made it this far on 
her own and even more so that I was able to run beside her. I noted 
that she was keeping a good pace and not wanting to kill her mojo I
 adapted to it. As we exchanged positive affirmations we were joined by
 another athlete and I realized that harmoniously and quite naturally we 
had both picked up our speed. The natural rhythm of pacing one 
another until equalized and balanced, establishes a united goal. I thought to myself
, this is how all relationships should be. Giving and taking ever so 
slightly so that fatigue is held at bay and goals are more likely to
 be obtained.
 She crossed the finish line breaking an old record, beating the goal she had set and solidifying 
herself as a finisher.

Running to something whether it be sobriety, relationships, accountability and happiness is much more
 valuable than running away from anything. To meet in the middle and 
adjust so that both in a relationship can share success is the 
key to unity. Yet, the value in the words, “Thank You” she gave me
 meant more than the finishers metal hanging around her neck.

Take
 account of who and what we should be running toward and focus less on 
things we are running from.

Marissa, You Are A Champion…

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